Category: Dating and Relationships
i know this is similar to another posting in this same category, but what things in a person's voice turn you on? i mean things like volume, pitch, accent, etc. let me know.
If they say naughty things. Smile.
That's not voices, silly wayne, that's words. Now elaborate about your turn-on regarding voices. lol
yes, i meant voices, not words. i did not mean the obvious, being what a person says, rather how and at what volume, etc. as i have already explained.
Ah, you all are no fun.
Honestly, I've never thought about voices in that way, so I guess I can't answer.
Booooooooooo.
You're no fun wayne.
lol
Lol I like a medium to high pitched expressive happy chick voice. Sort of in the viola range, if that makes sense.
Truth be told, I've never been able to define which voices I like and which I don't. Perhaps if I sat down and really pondered, I could come up with some set of parameters, but I'd just end up having to break them anyway when I found an attractive voice that didn't fit them. Just as an example: my current partner's voice is nothing at all like what I thought I considered attractive, so that just shows how much I understood about what I find attractive. It's odd too because in almost every other aspect, I can tell you exactly what I like and what I don't. Voices seem to be on a level I can't quite explain though.
lol Wayne, naughty things? even with eliquens reading naughty things to you? or, that is how you read porn fiction like 50 shade of something. :P
I like men with deep voices. Sometimes I have been attracted to voices that are not necessarily deep but have a bit of a rasp to them. There's a guy who does TV commercials for Walgreens in this area, and I really like his raspy voice. He sounds like he's smiling when he talks too.
If I were a guy, I don't think I would like women with little girlish voices. I don't particulary enjoy hering grown women who sound like little girls now, so if I were a man, I can't imagine liking that either. I don't mean women who deliberately talk in a high pitched girlish voice to be cute or funny once in awhile, I mean women who can't help it but just have childish voices. I know it is not their fault, but I just can't take it for very long. I had a co-worker whose wife called him at work, and every time I happened to be answering the phone when she called, I thought it was his daughter.
She might could help it Becky. She was calling her husband at work now?
Honey, can II buy that diamond ring today?
Joanne, you think? I mean, while I'm waiting on hold and I've got to listen to these automated voices? Smile.
I think more than a young sounding voice, as a man I would dislike a voice that is hard to tell if it's a man or a woman's. I imagine if I were pansexual or bisexual this would not be an issue. But as my attraction is to women, I don't think I could ever be attracted to a manly voice.
Note this doesn't mean demure or submissive or mouselike, I know a lot of university feminist types accuse us straight guys of this. But a woman who is confident in her own femininity and other things can have a woman's voice and still sound like a woman.
I do think a lot of women like women with deep voices though. My wife likes the sound of women with deep voices. But she is not attracted to them sexually. It's the same as a woman saying she wants a man to sound like a man.
Now my brother in law is a high tenor, a professional opera singer, but although his voice is high pitched you would never mistake it for being a woman's voice.
I have actually only heard one woman's voice who really sounded like a child though, and I found it hard to not treat her as such. Most people use that expression of a childish voice when they mean Asian descended women, or women with higher voices. But the way they talk doesn't at all sound like a little girl. Not even their inflections or mannerisms. It's hard for me to explain I guess.
I guess if a man could see he could more easily be attracted to a woman with a manly deeper voice, the song Lola by the Kinks comes to mind.
But interestingly, a army sergeant friend of mine at a party brought out this rag mag his wife had picked up regarding relationships. Of course it painted all heterosexual, usually white, men as complete dogs, this is what we would expect. But the reason he brought it out was they claimed only women cared about voices and men never did.
He took a informal poll of us sitting around (I'm the only one there who was blind), and every one of us found our wives' voices extremely attractive. Lol you should have heard him wind up and get all drill sergeant on the authors of that publication, starting with "What are these fools thinkin'? WHAT ARE YOU FOOLS DOIN'!"
I've never had this conversation with other blind people, but all my friends who dare to admit what the relationships doctrine media is wrong about, will say as much: Ladies, the man you're with finds the sound of your voice to be life-giving, no matter what (unless you're getting on us for something lol) but even if you're just going about whatever you're doing, just humming or whatever, or on the phone.
There was a very popular talking picture frame that Radio Shack used to carry. My wife got one when I was on business trips a lot. Those damn things were really popular! Everyone I knew wanted one, because even though a guy can see your picture, to hear your voice is beyond words if he's yours to begin with.
As an aside, if I were dating online, I would find it very hard to go without hearing the voice. People upload pics to each other all the time, but find it creepy to do Skype or something, to so someone could hear the other's voice? Again, what one hears is playing second best, I guess. For that reason I doubt I could ever date online.
The voice is extradimensional. And as I said, all the people I've talked to about this in real life are sighted, and they are all feeling it. Well guys anyway, I don't really discuss this sort of thing face to face with others beyond the One I'm committed to.
I have to hear the voice if I meet a woman online. No hear, no go.
Now a women with a deep voice is sexy, or some of them. There is a different timber for males and women deepness, if that makes sense?
Even guys with high voices, just don't sound like women.
You're right about the intonations and things. But I have heard women who were born women and had very deep voices. I just couldn't be attracted to that. I used to feel really guilty about that for being shallow, you know, if a woman was not attracted to me for having a pot belly as I used to have, and still have a little bit of, I could work out some more and eat less food, and drink less beer. But a chick can't control what her voice sounds like. So as a human I can't help feeling a bit shallow for it, but anymore I can't really deny it either.
Must not be a blind thing though, as I used to wonder if it was, since you're also blind and can be attracted to the deep smoky voices, or as has been described smoked honey voices.
Also if someone's emotions are hard to read via their voice it is offputting. I used to keep that one a secret also because I didn't really know how to explain it. But then I heard of my sister-in-law's relatives who had a disease where they literally could not physically smile. This was very hard on them and those around them, because they always looked mad. People thought because I have no sight I would not understand, but oh yes I do understand and very well.
I have often heard voices that I thought were mad sounding and so avoided such people. I don't mean that I did anything overt, just discreetly slipped away - they were left saying "Where'd he go?" Some people's voices just sound either flat / lobotomized or they sound cranky, whiny, or angry all the time. I'll admit those are very difficult for me. And so for that very reason I understand the plight of those people who cannot smile, and the plight of those around them. That one is hard.
Some of it is ethnic though. I don't mean to be offensive, but some ethnicities always talk really loud and sometimes sound like they're upset, at least to a wonderbread white lol but they don't mean it. I guess it's the voice equivalent of offputting, like a white looking a born and raised Japanese straight in the eyes.
But yes, a voice that conveys how she is feeling is very helpful to read since I can't just look over and see her distress.
i like voices that're deep also. and usually i wouldn't really choose someone with a southern accent, as many can be annoying, but my bf's got a southern accent and he his voice is deep. the person's voice doesn't hurt to be melodi and able to talk really softly. heheh.
What I like in a voice is hard to pin down. Expressiveness is a big one, for sure. I prefer a woman with a voice that is middling or slightly higher (not shrill, you understand, but not deep or horribly raspy either). Most of the people I've dated, bar one, had mid-range voices (one was fairly high-pitched, but very soft-spoken at the same time). I love being able to hear a smile or grin in her voice if she's pleased, and even though I've heard more than one woman groan about the way she sounds while laughing, I like a woman's laughter if it isn't scornful or particularly grating (I've heard plenty of both).
For me personally, the deeper sort of sultry thing has never quite done it for me. I don't know why.
Oddly enough, my voice is fairly high for a guy. When I sing, I sing in the tenor range quite comfortably, and on the phone I've more than once been called ma'am by people who don't know me. I personally don't care too much, because I know I don't honestly sound female. Many will hear pitch and nothing else, and assume they're talking to a lower-voiced woman. I've been told by most of the people who know me and are aware enough to make this distinction that I don't actually sound like a lady. Haha.
It's not too often I hear a guy's voice I like a lot, but it does happen. Usually it's fairly deep and confident, with little to no real rasp in it.
I don't usually find certain types of voices attractive, but I damn well know when I find them unatractive.
for instance, I find the smoker's voice that some women have, absolutely disgusting.
I want women to sound like women, not like children, and I want men to sound like men, period.
that being said, if I like a person, it typically follows that I like their voice, at least somewhat.
Ah yes, Shepherdwolf, a woman's laughter. Now I have suffered the scorn, ridicule and humiliation from early boyhood onward so I will not be attracted to one who is laughing that way. But genuine laughter from a woman is like a waterfall of gold and jewels.
Even if you hear them in the background just enjoying themselves, even a small chuckle or a group of them laughing it is very nice to listen to. But the laughter of the Loved is priceless.
Well, a voice accept for telling what they are, doesn't move me. It is what it says. Smile.
Completely agree with Becky about the opinion of the high pitch childish sounding voice that some women have. I know it isn't always their fault but it just doesn't sound right. I actually used to not really mind the higher pitch voices and found them cute. Now I prefer the medium range voice. More than anything a laugh usually gets me though. Especially if it's sofft and like a pleasured laugh.
And how about just a unconscious happy "hmm" sound. Now that is a nugget of gold also.
I'd need to think a little bit to really pin down what I like in a voice. Most voices are a lot more than one aspect.
that being the case, I think the smokers voice is disgusting. Like the one you hear from people that have been smoking for years, and years, and years.I met someone a few years back who was definitely older, who'd probably been smoking for most of their adult life. You could hear enough of her voice to kinda understand where it should have been, but at the same time, it had a lot of low end, and this rasp that just wasn't my cup of tea, at all.
that being said, the deep woman's voices don't really do it for me, either. So you combine that fact with how people sound when they end up with the deep smokers rasp and you get well, something I personally don't like.
I know people can't help how their voices sound, just as we can't really help what color our hair is, or how tall we are... Suppose its just one of those shallow standards we all have that make us human.
I'll post again once I pin down what I like in a voice.
I know what kinds of voices I'm attracted to, but it's not a deal-breaker if a guy doesn't have it, because I've dated guys whose voices I didn't initially find attractive. But if there's enough other things about the person, I can generally get used to a voice I might not find attractive on its own. But, since we're just talking about voice here...I like a guy's voice to be in the lower register. It doesn't have to be one of those really deep actor kind, just in the lower register for a guy. Deeper voices are just more attractive in my opinion. More importantly though is that it be expressive, that I can tell by listening if the person is happy and smiling, or if they're upset, or just..I don't know how to put it. But I don't like voices that always sound like the person is bored or uninterested, even if they actually are. Voices that really grate on me, whether male or female, are the ones in the really high registers. Little girl voices in women, as Becky was saying, or men who sound like they may as well be a woman.
I completely agree about the smoker's voice. That is one exception where you do have control over. My grandma has smoked for years and her voice is deeper than some guys. She isn't the only woman I know with this voice either. I understand how hard it is to quit smoking, but at the same time I don't understand how someone can let themselves get to such a point where it ruins your health. I tried a cigarette once, and though it didn't taste as bad as I thought it would, I had no reason to continue smoking.
i do like deeper voices for guys, but not scary boomy ones. and a lot of people have a list of at least a few celebs whose voice they like, but i only have one: alexander skarsgard, eric northman from true blood. if any of you heard his voice ever, he has the stuff i feel a guy must have in his voice in order to draw me to it like a fly. hehehe :D
I actually sometimes like those small voices. I used tohave a dental hygenist who had one. She was a year older than me but whenever telemarketers would call, and she always knew them tis wayy, they'd confuse her for the child of the family when she was actually the mom. LOL. But I definitely agree about the smoker voice being disgusting.
I tend toward a deep, warm, sultry voice usually.
I, like others, have some difficulty in pinpointing what it is exactly that I like in voices, but I'll give it a shot just for fun.
I like a bit of an accent. Genearlly, not southern, but if it's light enough, it's ok. I love the Boston accent, even though some women with it sound terribly obnoxious. I think that's more of a New England girl thing though. I love where I'm from, so I'm obviously going to be attracted to the accent. Well, maybe not obviously, but there you go. Of course I'm a sucker for foreign accents, in particular Irish and English. Scottish is way too thick for me to understand half the time. Even Irish I struggle with, but it's so attractive I'm ok with struggling. Sometimes the throatier accents turn me off a bit, like German and French, but Italian and Spanish can be pretty sexy, emphasis on Italian.... :D
In more general terms, I like deep voices. They're incredibly sexy applied well. My current boyfriend doesn't have a particularly deep voice, but what I like about his is the tender, soft quality. Sometimes, it makes him sound bored, but as I got to know him, I realized that he's just kind of quiet, a little reserved, and very laid back. I like that a lot and I like hearing it in his voice.
I like expressiveness as well, although my current does not have that too much hahaha. It's nice though to be able to know or at least have a fair understanding of what a person is feeling, just by listening to the tone of their voice.
And as Leo said, a good laugh is fantastic. For me, a guy with a high pitched laugh really, really turns me off, and I can't quite explain why. But a mid to low ranged laugh, or even a genuine belly laugh, I like, I love an infectious laugh. People say mine is. People also sometimes say my laugh is obnoxious, but hey, I love laughing, and nothing no one says makes me like it less, so I laugh on damn it! And all the better if he is able to laugh with me. And I've found that people I am attracted to generally have laughs that do stand out. I seem to like that.
i completely get what u mean about a guy sounding bored when he is really just chill. i am still getting used to that.
Lol Sarah you reminded me of something. Remember the time we were on Skype for the first time? You said I sounded like one of your exes and it was kinda creepy. I didn't know what to say haha.
I agree with Sarah that a Bostonian accent is great. Put that female Boston accent in a mid range--not too high not too low--and throw in a smile or a small laugh (no belly laughs please) and I'll be yours forever.
Unfortunately, I've never dated anyone with a voice like that. It would be my luck she would have a really lousy personality, but I'd be blinded by the voice.
Bob
Anybody ever wish they dated someone that sounded like Jaws? Wouldn't that sound sexy? Lol hahahaha.
I think I did one time.
Just kidding.
Bob
Or Samantha from Voice-Over?
Lol I know some of you girls would love a guy that sounded like Alex the Mac voice. That's about as close to realistic as you can get with voice programs as far as I know.
I wouldn't mind a girl who sounded like Karen from VoiceOver, but then I've always had a thing for Australian girls. Some English girls can be pretty damn sexy too LOL. And I like a lighter New York accent on a girl or even ust a bit of a Southern drawl.
I actually found Alex creepy. And the whole simulated breathing thing? Yikes, that freaked me out. Give me good old eloquence. ... Not to date, mind you.
Been a few night when Jaws was my date. Lol
I like a woman's voice in between high and low. Even though I despise smoking, a little rasp kinda turns me on.
Oh I definitely like a woman with a bit of a husky voice. I had a irlfriend a few years back who had that sort of voice and it really turned me on.
What about the new vocalizervoice Ava. Wow, she is hot!
I must say, I am parcial to men with deep voices.
And agree with Chelsea on the ugly voices; I know straight away when I hear one; can't help cringing.
Some women/teenage girls naturally have deep voices which I find very hard to get use too.
I remember I had a teacher in year 8 (second year of high school) with the deepest every voice; it was crazy! :)
LOL. The only Vocalizer voiceI would consider hot would be Karen. Then again Australian women have always been something of a turn-on for me LOL.
Never heard it. But Neo speech Kate with the pitch all the way up, mmmmm.
LOL I know.